Monday, April 13, 2015

What's Love got to do with it?

Since I have a break from school for a few weeks, I have been hitting up my local library and checking out way too many books. 
This past week it occurred to me I had never checked out the Psychology section at the library which is strange since I am a psychology student. 
I found some amazing books and I just finished this one:

Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject (with the help of 50,000 strangers)
By Daniel Jones.

Jones is the editor of the New York Times column Modern Love.
I read this book in two days!
That is how much I loved it!
The topics he covers is Destiny, Trust, Connection, Practicality, and Wisdom. 

While I loved the whole book, there were a few quotes that had me turning some thoughts in my head.

"We need to believe that most people we encounter in our daily lives aren't out to harm us and may even try to save us if necessary."
-This thought really struck me as a woman when it comes to dating. I like this quote, but it does not seem very realistic for the dating world at least for me as a woman. I was taught to always tell someone where you are going, to have 911 as a speed dial, carry around pepper spray, etc. when going on dates because you can never be too careful. Am I the only one who was told this? Maybe it is just me but it's hard for me to imagine that most people we encounter are not out to hurt us. We encounter so many strangers and everyone has secrets. I guess I prefer to be a little bit more safe out there.

"When people act like they love you and maybe even say they love you, how can you know if they really love you?"
-I think actions speak the loudest, but I think words are necessary as well. When the two are expressing love and you gut says this is truth then I think that is how you know its really love. I truly believe we are the best indicators of truth, but we learn how to second guess ourselves and ignore the red flags. Learn to trust yourself and then you can learn to trust if the love is real.

"How is online dating changing us?"
-Well, for one it changed the game of connecting and communicating. Some think its bad, but I am a positive experience of online dating. Brad and I met through OkCupid! and now we are engaged. I can only speak for myself on how online dating changed me. Online dating allowed me to take a risk and try something new. I went on a lot of bad dates, and a few good ones, and one really amazing one. I learned a lot about myself in the process as well along with things I did not want in a guy I dated. It also taught me how much I wanted a guy who could still communicated with me without a screen hiding him. Some think online dating is changing us for the worst, but I definitely disagree.

"Arranged marriage: the goal is to figure out how to be married not whether to marry."
-This was my most favorite thing to ponder about. We spend time trying to figure out whether to marry someone and if we decide yes, then we marry them. But I think most of the western culture continues to ask this same question as they are married which is why divorce is so prevalent now. To me the answer is to move from asking the question of whether we should still be married to this person to the question of how do we be married? I think if we could move into this arranged marriage concept that we could save a lot more marriages. We already answered the question if we should get married, now let's learn how to be married and what works and what doesn't for our marriage.

"Do we have to kill love to understand it?
-Part of me screams yes and the other part quietly screams no. My interpretation of this is that sometimes we have to kill a relationship to learn what love is and learn a new way of understanding it. But I also believe that you will find a relationship that will continue to teach you love and teach you understanding of love without killing it. I think it is very important for people to learn what and who they can love and I think you have to date a few people sometimes to find that. Some people are lucky and only date one person, but most people need the experience to date more than one person to teach themselves what they truly want out of a relationship. Whatever path is chosen, is right for each individual. 

And to end I just want to encourage you all on this quote that Jones ended with:
"Marvel at what love does best: it helps us to be good."
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Tuesday, April 7, 2015

Heart Won Over

My fiance really knows how to win my heart.
He is just so good at knowing what I need, want, and love.

1. Coffee
One day he let me sleep in and when I woke up he was holding coffee from Starbucks in his hand. This is when I knew he was a keeper. I will teach my kids as soon as they are old enough to make coffee so that they can bring it to me in bed every single day.

2. Bingo Lottery Tickets
I love these little guys. I could care less about any other lottery ticket, but bring a bingo one home and I will be super duper happy.

3. My Songs
The man is good. He turns that radio up and he lets me sing to my hearts content.

4. My Besties
He understands this statement and he loves my friends.
I mean he loves them so much he invited them to the proposal.
Oh he also takes my phone from me to text them.

And basically this is something anybody could do to win my heart over.
But it's a little too late. I'm off the market.
But I accept Starbucks from anybody.

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Friday, April 3, 2015

Nanny Life Update

It has been a while since I've shared with you my Mary Poppins Adventure.
So what better way to share than with a list!

1. I now understand how parents can be so calm one minute and explode the next.
It is so ridiculously hard to keep your cool with kids. 
They know how to get you to tick and they do not have the mindset that there are worse things in life than not getting to wear your favorite shoes to school that day. 

I think these words come out of my mouth quite often!

2. I never imagined I would feel like I am the extremely older sister almost all the time.
In my head, I am in adult mode, but I also have been in older sister mode for a while.
I never knew I would grow to love these kids like family and feel like I am their older sister most of the time.

3. I forgot how much kids like to fight with you about silly things.
Both of my families have an issue with homework, but who doesn't at their age.
Even I have an issue with homework, but I'm grown and know I have to do it.
The phrase "it's like pulling teeth" has never been more true.
The homework struggle is real and the fight happens every day!

I am learning so much in this new job pursuit. Yes, it is not what I want to do forever, but it sure is preparing me for motherhood even thought my choice for that decision in life is a Hard No!

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Thursday, March 26, 2015

Introducing Myself

I am sure I have done this before, but I really cannot recall introducing myself on here and I am way too lazy to go back through my old posts to see if I have.
And what better way to introduce yourself than through gifs.

Obviously if you look to the right this is not me. 
But my name is Rachel and Haters are gonna Hate.

I love my morning iced grande mocha. 
I used to get them from Starbucks everyday until my lovely sister got me my own espresso maker and now I fully believe mine are better than Starbucks.

I am a shorty. I'm 5'2. My Fiance is 6'2.
Life is good from down here.

I am a counseling psychology graduate student.
I'm in year 2 of 4. 
And yes this is how I feel a lot of the time.
The tiredness never goes away and if it disappears it is never for long.

I am so paranoid. I think this thought in regards to everything.
I lock my car door as soon as I get in it and check behind my seat to see if someone is hiding back there. I hate going into the basement because I believe that's where the bodies are buried. 

I am not a morning person at all.
Even with waking up most days before 6 for my job, I still do not like mornings.
And I do not think I ever will.

I may seem bossy, but I am really just a leader.
Rachel-ism's are more valid than logic.
Trust me.

This is me everyday of my life.
I am the girl having a conversation by herself in the car.
I constantly have conversations in my head and act out how I think the situation I am in may go. And I sometimes may find myself angry at you for something you did not do, but believe you have done because of my made up conversation. My bad.

More like I want Chik-Fil-A everyday but they do not have it in Washington.
*UPDATE-I just drove past a Chick-fil-a in Bellevue that is being built. My fiance got a little freaked over the noise that came out of my mouth when I spotted it!*
I truly believe the Dr. Peppers taste better from this business.

And of course I could go on and on, but that's a waste of your time.
If you want to know anything else please feel free to ask!
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Tuesday, March 24, 2015


Being in the wedding search mode, I have come across some amazing things.
One of these amazing things is this app I discovered called 20Stamps.
You download it on to your phone and can create your own custom stamps.
I have been seeking ways to customize the little things for my wedding and this is such a simple way to do it. I also love when I receive letters from people with personal stamps. It's that extra special step that allows you to be more personal despite being away from people.

This app is so simple.
You literally download it and allow it to access your photos.
From there you select one:
 It then allows you to choose a filter just like Instagram.

From there you select the postage rate you need.

Then you check out the final design before purchasing.

Not only do they do stamps, but they also do greeting cards.
I absolutely love personalized greeting cards.

The whole process took me 2 minutes top. It's simple and quick.
While I did not purchase my stamps yet as I would like to wait until Engagement Pictures, I will definitely be using this once I start to send out my invites.

I am not a super tech savvy person and I absolutely love apps that simplify things.
If you are looking to add a little flair to your snail mail, I strongly suggest downloading 20Stamps.
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Monday, March 23, 2015

What I'm Looking Forward To

Sometimes you just need to be excited for things that are still to come.

1. In a few weeks, I finally get to cross something off my bucket list.
Attend a Blogger Meet-Up. 
Thanks to some lovely ladies in the Washington area we are having a meet-up.
I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a little nervous for it, but I'm also excited.
Meeting new people can be scary and especially people who blog more consistently and have larger followers. Either way I am excited to have a fun night with people who share an interest like mine.

2. A break from school. I have about 5 more weeks of school left.
That may seem like a lot for some, but it's really not.
I am excited to have two weeks off at the end of the term to relax and slow down for a bit.

3. I'm almost done with counseling.
My school program requires us to attend 40 hours of counseling.
At about my 20th hour, I felt like I had no need for counseling anymore.
Since then, each week has been a countdown to the end.
I love counseling, but I also would love a break from it.

It's just a few things, but they are pushing me through!
What are you looking forward to?
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Wednesday, March 18, 2015

England 2015

I've almost been back for a month and have not blogged about our England Trip.
I know, it's shameful. I get it, but at least I am finally sharing about it.

Most people ask us why we went.
2 Reasons: 
1. To Relax and Vacation
2. To visit my grandma and the rest of my family.
My mother is from England and that is where her family resides.
I had not been back since I was 8 years old, that's 16 years since my last visit.
Also very shameful.

I would love to describe everything we did, but I think that's unfair to those of you who have never been. Everyone experiences England differently and I think your own personal experience is best to be experienced without others thoughts about how you should do it.
I will say that the Tower of London is worth it and that you should plan to be there for at least 2 hours more like 4. Also buying the hop on hop off bus ticket is worth it.

So here is our trip in pictures!

This is called a hot rock and it is my most favorite meal ever.
Comes in lamb, steak, chicken, cheese, and more.
I had it twice it was that good and everyone should be able to have steak twice while on vacation.

My handsome fiance loving all the trains.

I'm obsessed with these hats. I just may require them at my wedding.

Peterborough Cathedral

The Tower of London

They kings used to give each other animals as gifts. Crazy!

This dragon is made of all weapons and armory.

That blue gun at the top has diamonds on it.

Some kings were actually this short. I was taller than some kings.

London Victoria's Secret. 4 Stories and had all the fashion show line.
I was in love!

 Marble Arches

 Buckingham Palace

 This was my face most of the time since we didn't know where we were going.

St. James Park


Trafalgar Square

Delicious Fish n' Chips!

 I think this might be part of Westminster Abbey, but I cannot remember

I did this often on the train.

Aunty Greta's Street

Brad's favorite. A 3 Wheeled Car

This is my happy face!

 My grandmother and I

Brad loved the trains

 We found the Starbucks!

 Taxi Cabs!

 Brad and I's inside joke found while shopping

This was our first day in England after traveling 11 hours. I was exhausted.

Our home for our trip. My grandmothers house!

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