Thursday, July 17, 2014

#FAVTOTALSOCIAL


Helene in Between

Who doesn't like sharing their favorite things in life?

So let's begin!

Favorite Pictures (Because I just cannot choose one):
I will always love this picture. Candid and shows how infatuated we are with each other.

The besties with their mommas. These ladies supported us all throughout college and each momma loved us like we were their own. We have so many pictures like these and they make me smile each time.

I don't know what it is about this picture, but this  was just us as roommates. It was one of the best life choices I ever made to room with this girl!

Favorite Song's:



Favorite Places to Eat:
Chick-fil-a: always and forever. Only the best fast food to ever exist. 

Piper's Cafe: Where else can you get the most delicious chicken james?

Favorite Animal:
Seriously, these creatures are just too adorable and do things like that!

Favorite Drink:
Iced Mocha's from Starbucks. I'm addicted.

I think that's a good start into some of my favorite things.
What's your favorites?
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Thursday, July 10, 2014

Leadership

I was driving yesterday and I was angry. 
Not at any of the drivers, but angry about a situation that happened a few weeks ago.
A leader who was in my life in high school had made a visit to Seattle and did not tell me they were coming or try to see me. 

Silly to be angry about, right?
But, never the less, I was angry.
Is it really that difficult to make time to have an hour chat with someone?

 I have had many leaders in my life over the years. Growing up in church means having someone around who is stepping up to lead. Those middle school and high school years are filled with influential individuals. As I was driving, I found myself angry at all those leaders who stepped into my life and then stopped contacting me.

I started to think I was the problem. Some of those leaders are still close with the people of my age group. They still keep in contact with them, but not me. Maybe I wasn't popular enough for their attention. Or maybe I was not the one with the most problems so they did not have to spend as much time with me. I began to feel overlooked.

And then I began to think of my roles as a leader. I started to think of the small group girls I led in high school and how I have not contacted them in a few years. But of course, I had an excuse. I was asked not to return back to that church where we built a relationship so of course I could not continue a relationship with them.
But really, that excuse is not valid. 

Thinking about all this made me realize that leadership has a beginning and an end. Some leadership roles last for decades and you continue relationships for a lifetime. Other leadership roles last for a few years and the relationships end after a while. It's common and should not be looked down upon. 

While I still wish I had relationships with those leaders that had an impact in my life, I also know that I am fine without them. I still think highly of them and cherish the memories shared with them. I guess I finally understand the pressure that comes from trying to continue on those relationships. If you try to continue them all, you cannot truly impact. Eventually you have to trust your instincts and lead those you feel need it the most. 

I realize I should not be insulted that those leaders do not contact me anymore or make time for me. They have lives, I have a life; we are all doing our best to be good people. It's that simple. If I had more time in the world, I am sure I would build more relationships with people, but the truth of the matter is that time is limited sometimes.

I am reminded of a quote my friends sent me a while ago about people being apart of our lives for different times.
Some people are in our lives for a short time and others for forever. 
Either way we should cherish the time we have or have had with them.

So thank you to all those people who have had an impact in my life. Thank you for taking time away from your families and partners to pour into mine and guide me along the way. Thank you for the advice, kind words, and heartfelt messages when I needed them most. Thank you for being you and for being apart of my life for a short time or for forever.
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Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Summer Plans

Seeing as I was in school till the end of June, my summer is finally starting and this is what I have planned. 

1.) Go to a concert


Gavin Degraw- This is how I kicked off my first day of summer! It was such a blast and I would pay to see it again. Mary Lambert, Matt Nathanson, and this guy! Just perfect to kick the summer off!!

2.) Camping


I do live in the state of Washington now so I should experience what camping is like here, right?
I am crossing this off the list at the end of July. Fingers crossed the boy survives--he thought we could sleep in the back of his car instead of a tent; he prefers glamping if you know what I mean.

3.) Bonfire and Barbecue



My man keeps talking about these epic bonfires he throws but I have yet to experience it. I am making him show me how great of a bonfire he throws and making him grill me some delicious burgers. 

4.) Harry Potter World


Because my man has a business trip in Florida, he invited me along and part of the benefit of going to a tool convention is also getting to go to Harry Potter World! To say I am excited is an understatement. It's only been a dream of mine and I get to experience it with my man!

I am sure I will do much more this summer, but these are just a few of the things I am making sure to accomplish. 
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Thursday, June 26, 2014

23 and Trying to Make Friends

I feel like I am in the first day of elementary school or middle school all over again. 
Since moving to Seattle, I have been pretty lonely in the friend department. 
I have made friends at school and with my roommates, but I have not made those friends I find myself texting every few days or thinking I should ask if they want to come to a concert with me.

My boyfriend has been my best friend since I moved out here and while that's a great thing, I also know he cannot be the only best friend I have out here. Life is really unfair sometimes. My best friends from high school and college are all in different states. We have a quality friendship and I miss them. We worked hard for those friendships and I guess I am being lazy and not wanting to do that with someone else again.


I think I am also scared of being hurt. I've been hurt by so many friendships before and I do not want to go through that again. But I am lonely in the friendship department. It should have been easy to make friends, but my problem is that the people at school hangout on the weekends and the weekend is my 9-5 work day. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday's are the days I work the most which conflicts with all those people's days off. 




I know I cannot blame my loneliness on work though. I really have not tried. Why don't they just pair you with someone when you move somewhere new and they have to become your new best friend? That would be so much easier. 

I know I am not the first blogger in this world to post about this, so I am asking for your help.
What did you do to make friends? Is it silly to turn to young adult groups or online to meet new friends? How do you break down the walls you've built to keep your self safe? Also, how do you find a friend who thinks all these e-cards are the most hilarious things ever?


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Tuesday, June 24, 2014

ASL


So many times people assume television is a waste of time or useless. Sometimes this is true, I watch some pretty horrible, trashy tv. Switched at Birth is different thought.
Yes, it has all the drama a tv show needs, but it it also teaching me.

The show revolves around a deaf community and daughter so throughout the show I have been learning little pieces of sign language. And it reminded me of the class I took when I was little learning sign language.

I went out and bought a book to teach me more. And being the dreamer I am, I began to dream about how I could use sign language in my daily life and future. I thought about how I could use it as a counselor. I am sure I would not be the only one, but I have not met a counselor the speaks ASL. What if I became a counselor who could take on clients who use ASL? 

My only fear is that I do not finish learning the ASL signs. I start projects a lot of them and then do not finish them, but I really want to finish this one. I know school will start again in a few months and I'm afraid that I will stop once it starts up again.

Why is so easy to quit stuff sometimes? I go through these phases when I feel super motivated and other times I search forever for motivation. And then I wonder why I am so scared of quitting this learning experience. Is it the end of the world if I do quit? I know the answer is no, its not the end of the world. 

What do you do when you find yourself un-motivated to finish something? I am sure there's no right way, but I'm curious.

If I can figure out technology, I'd like to make some video blogs teaching you all what I am learning so be looking out for those videos to come!
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Sunday, June 22, 2014

Missing this space

My blogging has been minimal lately and I will not lie...
I miss this space.
But part of me also feels like this space is not the same for me anymore.
The graduate school journey for me requires that I share my passion, heart, and life with my cohort and the idea of sharing it on here as well seems plain exhausting.
But I still miss this area.
I miss my 5 day's a week blogging goal and I miss the community of it.

Reading blogs throughout this school year got me through many long classes, but I could never convince myself to write blog posts during those classes. I think I wrote just a few blog posts while I was in class. I've been thinking lately that I need to get back into a routine of blogging, but some of the things I want to write about scares me. 

I am scared ya'll might think I am crazy, weird, or think I shouldn't be sharing some of the stuff I want to share. But this year of graduate school has changed me a lot. I've learned that everyone has a story about their family of origin and that we all have a tragedy story. I've learned that I'm a racist and that I treat people of different skin color badly. I've learned that my faith has changed dramatically and it may never return to the place it once was. I could go on and on, but I am not sure you want to hear it all.

Yet these are the things I want to write about, but I'm scared you may judge me.
Can I write about what I learned in my multicultural class?
Can I write about my family of origin?
Can I write about my lost faith?
Will you still receive my words with kindness and grace?

I want to return to this space, but part of me says I can't and I don't know what to do with that.
Am I in a blogging rut? Is this normal for bloggers? 
Does any body have answers for me?
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Thursday, June 19, 2014

It's Almost Here!

I am sure you may be asking "What's almost here, Rachel?"

Well let me just tell you...

The time for two months of non-school related life is almost here. 
As of today I have two classes, two group presentations, and one final paper keeping me from summer break.
That's all I have left to finish!

You'd think this would be normal for me because I've only been through this life for the last five years, but I have never been more excited for a break ever in my life!
I am giddy just thinking about.

I am sure you're wondering what I am going to do with all this free time that will be opening up for me.

Well let me just tell you...

I am going to start by seeing this man on Tuesday with my man.
I mentioned how much I wanted to see him in concert again, but I talked myself out of going because I still cannot get over at how expensive concert tickets are. Thankfully, I talked myself into paying the $125.00 for two tickets. I also get to see Matthew Nathanson and Mary Lambert. I am more excited to see Mary than Matthew because she is a Seattle local known for singing with Mackelmore in the Same Love video.

And then I am going to teach myself during this time off. I started watching this tv show a few weeks ago:
If you have not seen it, one of the girls in the show is deaf and I have been learning little pieces of sign language from watching it. When I was in elementary school, I took a class learning sign language but never continued with it. I so want to spend the two months off practicing sign language and implementing it into my life.

I am also probably going to do lots of reading for fun because I have not been able to do that for 9 months now. It's about time.

I am also open to suggestions on how I should spend these two beautiful months of summer. Part of it will be working lots of course because Seattle ain't cheap and I will also be moving to a new place at the end of July so there's that too.

Anything you think I should do during these two months? Any Seattle secrets you have for me?
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