Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Current Loves

I'm on Vacation this week! 
No I did not go any where because I'm going to Washington D.C. in a few weeks.
So this is a stay-cation and I'm living it up pretending to be a housewife.
I thought I would share with you a few of the things I am currently loving.

1.| My new bag from Target. 
I tried to talk myself out of this because it's more of a weekend tote bag, but I love Aztec prints and I just couldn't resist. 
You can find it here. And it's on sale!

2.| I'm always loving this guy, but I am currently practicing my wifely duties and cooking delicious meals that he wants to gulf down and I love that!
It also happens to be 1 year and 10 months we've been dating.
I know some people think it's silly to remember these dates, but it's fun to think about all that has happened since we started dating so I will continue to celebrate each month!

3.| I found this book at a garage sale and snagged it up. 
I cooked my first recipe from it last night and it is true that they only take 30 minutes and it's so much better than take-out. I highly suggest finding it. Plus the woman cooks with wine which I got to do for the first time last night and it was awesome!

4.| Eventrix.com is teaching me how to bar-tend and barista this week. 
And I got an awesome deal on groupon for the class. 
I will definitely look into more classes with them.

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Monday, July 13, 2015


If there is one thing I have learned from the last two years of being in graduate school, living in Seattle, and forming a relationship with my soon-to-be-husband, it is that communication requires a lot of vulnerability.

I always thought I was really good at stating my needs, wants, and desires, but truth is I am not.
And I started to wonder why that was the other day.
Why do I feel scared when I'm about to tell my fiance how I really feel about something?
Why do I avoid stating my beliefs in class?
Why is it so easy for me to give advice to others but not accept my own?

And I pondered and realized because vulnerability is right around the corner about to pop out at me when I am in these moments. 
When I tell my fiance my feelings or my hurt I am being vulnerable.
When I speak my truth in class I am being vulnerable.
When I accept my own advice I am being vulnerable. 

And it is so scary.
Vulnerability is hard.
It requires you to stop hiding, to be transparent, and to be wholly you.
It asks you to step onto new terrain with someone or something and hope that you won't be left alone, that you will be understood and heard and known.

But there is beauty when your vulnerability is held and known.
When your fiance listens, responds, and allows your needs to be validated. Your wants allowed. And your desire accepted.
It is beautiful when you are able to share your truth and feel confident that your truth is yours to have and it does not matter if its not the same for another.
And it is beautiful when you can take your own advice and run with it to the end.

I'm not sure where you are in life but I hope you're engaging your vulnerability and that you are discovering people who push you to be vulnerable, who require it of you, and ask it of you.
Because I truly believe that your vulnerability is beautiful, it is welcomed, and it is desired.

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Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Blogger Friend Linkup #2

Today I get to invite my best friend fiance to share his input on me as a blogger and general life-ness.

1. If you have a specific ringtone for your blogger, what is it? If you don’t have one, what would it be if you did?
He doesn't have one but if he did it would be this song:
2. What is something the two of you enjoy doing together?
Going on dates and watching tv shows on Netflix.
(You gotta love all the detail he went into ;) )

3. What is your favorite post of hers that she has ever written?

4. How much time do you think your blogger puts into blogging each week?
1-2 Hours.
(If only this was the truth...).

Short and sweet, just like me.
Love you handsome, thanks for sharing!

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Friday, July 3, 2015

July Goals

First we have to start with a recap of June goals, right?

1. Avoid Starbucks/Caffeine

These two pictures pretty much sums it up.
Also my nanny family gave me a generous gift card to Starbucks so I'm blaming them.

2. Go to Zumba at least two times a week.
I would say I kind of did this, but I also bought a gym membership and began to utilize the gym more than zumba. So I'm giving myself an A+

3.Take Care of Myself
I say yes, but I need to work on the quality of food self care.
This last week has been pretty bad.

July Goals!

1. Avoid Starbuck's.
I am serious this time (just like every other time). 
I am going to try really hard at using my espresso machine again and not wasting my money away.

2. Read 4 book's.
Summer is my favorite because I get to read books I choose to read.
So far I'm three books in and have a whole bag of books to read!
Currently reading:

3. Do my Bartender course from Groupon.
I bought a groupon to teach me how to bar-tend and barista.
I've been dying to learn both of these skills and am ready to serve up some yummy drinks!

4. Spend time with my brother.
Whom is coming in a week to Seattle for the very first time.
I am so excited!

What are your goals?
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Wednesday, July 1, 2015

To My Brother

Today is my brother's 21st Birthday!
We are 3 years apart which means we still fight even though now we are both technically adults.
But I still love him all the same.

He sends the best snapchats that crack me up or make me wonder if he is still alive.
He is ridiculously funny to the point of bringing me to tears.

And though we are siblings, he is one of the best gifts God ever gave our family even if he was supposed to be a girl (Long story, ask him).
Happy Birthday baby brother.
Continue to pave your path, live life the way you want, and discover more of the wonderful qualities of you.
Love you!
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Thursday, June 18, 2015

You Probably Don't Know...Link-up!

I feel like I share a lot on here so you may already know some of this stuff, but here it goes!

You probably don't know...

1. That I'm half-British. 
This was the cool fact I shared about myself as a kid.
Whether half-British is a thing or not, I say I am.
My father's American and my mother is British.
Therefore I'm half-British.

2. I'm having two weddings.
Because I'm clearly royalty!
(read above if you don't get that)
I'm from Indiana; Brad's from Washington.
Therefore two weddings have to happen to appease both sides.
Plus, who would not want to wear their dress as many times as possible?!

3. I went on a mission trip to Nicaragua my senior year of high school.
We tested the water in the community to learn that the water was actually making the community sick. Since our testing, they built a new water system and a road to allow more access tot he community we worked with.
If you're interested in the work that we did and that is still being done, visit Hope Road Nicaragua

4. I am a planner.
I do not work well with people who are last minute, spontaneous, etc.
I like my calender's, all 6 of them. 
It's pure joy to plan out the year and fill those calender's up!

5. I love giraffes.
I think I'm obsessed with them because they are tall and I am very short.
I could watch them all day at the zoo.
This makes me laugh every time!

What don't I know about you?

Helene in Between

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Monday, June 15, 2015

What I Learned from a Year of Counseling

Today I finished my 40th hour of counseling required of my masters program. Since last July, I have been seeing the same woman every Monday at 10 a.m. I'll be honest and say it was not always easy. When is working on improving who you are ever easy? But I will say it is worth it. A year of counseling teaches you a lot and today I share some of the things I've discovered.

1.    It is possible for a stranger to see who you truly are.
            -I was skeptical at times with my counselor. I thought "There's no way this lady really knows all of me and can even begin the life I've traveled." And guess what, she never admitted she did know all of me or could understand the live I've traveled. She did try to know all of me and try to see life from my shoes. A complete stranger cared enough about me to try and sometimes trying makes all the difference.

2. Whether you think you need counseling or not, just do it.
            -There were so many times I was ready to quit. Some days I felt like I was digging for anything to talk about and other days I had a list of things. But even on those days I felt I had nothing to bring, there was something there. Sometimes it was something I was not saying, sometimes it was something in my unconscious, and often it was just myself lying to myself that I was fine and did not need someone to talk to.

3. It is NOT about the other.
            -What I mean by this is that counseling is not about fixing the other, you know that person who cut you off in traffic, or your mom who yelled at you again, or your boyfriend who cheated on you for the 5th time (Just so you know these do not refer to me, just topics that can come up in counseling). Counseling is about you. It is about exploring who you are, learning your style of relating, discovering more about yourself that you did not know existed, and being real and honest about your life. It is not about your counselor and their agenda; it is simply for you and what you desire.

4. Push through.
            -I learned that if it is not important to me that I will give it up very easily. There were many Monday's where counseling was not a priority for me, but I came. Often I complained about how it was frustrating to be doing something that I am not necessarily choosing. But I pushed through and learned that this is a way I hide sometimes. If you feel like giving it up, maybe it is time for you to give it up, but challenge yourself to push through and I bet you'll discover something about yourself you did not know was there.

5. You're okay.
            -To hear someone say "You're okay" is a beautiful, caring statement. It rings in your ears as acceptance of who you are. It gives you hope that you will overcome or work through whatever is going on in your life. And it gives you some peace about life.

6. The tissue box may become your best friend.

            -Thank God for Kleenexes and a counselor who places them in a convenient place. Welcome this box and accept it. It is there to heal, to hold, and to let you breathe. 

There was so much more I learned along the way, but sharing all is not necessary.
I am thankful for this past year of self-work and having someone who met with me every Monday.
Until next time...
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