I feel like I am in the first day of elementary school or middle school all over again.
Since moving to Seattle, I have been pretty lonely in the friend department.
I have made friends at school and with my roommates, but I have not made those friends I find myself texting every few days or thinking I should ask if they want to come to a concert with me.
My boyfriend has been my best friend since I moved out here and while that's a great thing, I also know he cannot be the only best friend I have out here. Life is really unfair sometimes. My best friends from high school and college are all in different states. We have a quality friendship and I miss them. We worked hard for those friendships and I guess I am being lazy and not wanting to do that with someone else again.
I think I am also scared of being hurt. I've been hurt by so many friendships before and I do not want to go through that again. But I am lonely in the friendship department. It should have been easy to make friends, but my problem is that the people at school hangout on the weekends and the weekend is my 9-5 work day. Friday, Saturday, and Sunday's are the days I work the most which conflicts with all those people's days off.
I know I cannot blame my loneliness on work though. I really have not tried. Why don't they just pair you with someone when you move somewhere new and they have to become your new best friend? That would be so much easier.
I know I am not the first blogger in this world to post about this, so I am asking for your help.
What did you do to make friends? Is it silly to turn to young adult groups or online to meet new friends? How do you break down the walls you've built to keep your self safe? Also, how do you find a friend who thinks all these e-cards are the most hilarious things ever?
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I totally know the feeling, my closest friends are from high school/the summer I was 21 and I'm about to turn 26 and I'm living a 15 hour drive from all of them. I have yet to really replicate my closeness with them in my new city, and the distance has kind of put a damper on our closeness to. Times are changing, I say go for with joining a club or checking out online friend potentials- just make sure you take someone with you or meet in a public place in case they're not good. And be patient, you will meet people slowly- maybe go out 1 night of the weekend to try and connect with your school friends or have a potluck or something to help you fall into the group more?
ReplyDeleteHi Rachel,
ReplyDeleteI'm friends with your parents and they shared your blog with me. :) I have moved a LOT. Making new friends is rarely easy but always worth the effort! I found church was always a great place to start, whether it be when I was single or after marriage. I don't think it's silly at all. :)